How many of you have said during one time or another that "If its meant not meant to be, it won't be"? or maybe "Whatever happens is for the better" or "Kismet ki baat hai"?
In other words, how many of you are taking the responsibility for your own actions or maybe lack of - and how many are simply blaming God? Or do you use the phrases above as a comforting thought because you know no better?
Are we simply just taking this life for granted, and not doing the things we want to? Our mind is that which is given to us by God in order to make decisions with. The mind is the instrument, the tool, and these decisons will create our karma. If somebody commits suicide, that is not his destiny - or what was meant to be... It is the mind which decided this and he/she has created their karma!
In life we have to try 100% to reach our goals. Lets take the example of a student and an exam. The goal is to pass the exam. But in reality, the student fails the exam. Now, if the student has not studied, then that is their fault, and you cannot blame God. If the person gave 100% dedication to his studies, and then did not pass, then maybe that is kismet - but he/she should still try again! Simply do not give up! We do not know whether it is karma or not.
Yes, I believe that certain events in a person's life - I like to call them milestones - will occur as this is their destiny, having to pay the dues of their karma from their past lives in this present life! But that, we do not know whether those milestones are really a result of the decision-making in this life, or theirkarma. And their decisons in this life may be their karma in their next life.
So, please - don't blame God... God has given us the tool - which is the mind. Look at yourself first, and see what you could do! And even if it was something written in your kismet - then you yourself are to blame for it. Neither should you go and blame another person.
As the saying goes "a bad cook always blames thier utensils" (or something to that effect!) I'll say it once more - Please, don't blame God...